|photo credit: Trisha Shelley Photography|
|For a whole day, that is how he carried his sheep around the house.|
|Yeah...that's, um...nutella. Needless to say we were late to church that day cleaning up the...nutella.|
|He couldn't find his sunglasses.|
Daily I feel like my brain is working harder than ever before, and yet melting at the same time. Daily I feel intense waves of love and extreme frustration all within the same second. Daily I question if I am teaching enough, playing enough, loving enough, calm enough, disciplining enough, moving enough, etc. Daily I hit moments where I'm sure I'm doing this whole mothering thing wrong, and doing life wrong.
I need to put this quote up where I will see it daily. Hourly. Some days I believe the quote. Other days I don't.
Over Christmas Break my Mom kept trying to assure me that it would all turn out okay. That I'd make it through. That the Mommy Pay Days would come. She said, "Your wedding day was a Mommy Pay Day, and that's why I cried all day long." I laughed and replied, "I'd cry too if it took 20 years to get a pay day!" It's hard to look ahead to these big moments and to use them as motivation. They seem so distant. They don't seem even real at this point.
So for now I look for these smaller Pay Days. And if I look and pay attention, they are here, cleverly disguised as just normal moments.
Or when I walk into the room to find his chair of preference is the cookie tub.
Or the way he flaps his arms as he runs.
And just his goofy little self.
These moments matter. These moments are what build up the years. These are the moments I have to treasure up, because if I only focus on the fits, the nights he wakes up 4 times, the thrown food, the endless diaper changes, then of course all I will see is a long road full of sinkholes and despair.
And I think this applies not just to motherhood, but to life. Life isn't a constant adventure or romance movie. It's a lot of mundane and normal moments with seconds of awesomeness thrown in. The trick is to find joy in the mundane and normal moments. To keep moving. To keep pushing on.
So whatever your struggle is right now, whatever you feel bogged down in, keep going. Keep pushing. Keep trying to succeed. Don't you quit! You are doing better than you think you are.